Every adult man, who had ever killed a prey with his own weapon, and every adult woman, who had ever menstruated, could have sex with any adult partner. Of course, the women were interested in the men who brought home the best meat regularly. They wanted to be sure to get the best food for their babies and themselves. Although all the meat and gathered fruits were shared with every tribal member, the best parts were reserved for the specific hunter. He then decided with whom he cared to share it with and, of course, he shared it with the woman who "acknowledged" him the best. We understand that we need to learn certain skills so that sex can become pleasurable. When it becomes an interdependence between the two partners, sex becomes a bliss. This takes time, so definitive partnerships were established; the theme of Safety and Sexual Satisfaction.

Let us admit it. Some men have learning inhibitions and some women will tolerate anything as long as they can feel safe for their babies and themselves. In those days, everybody knew [also in the biblical sense] everybody else in the tribe. Thus the young men had to be taught how to be together with a woman. Woman who had passed their childbearing age had lost the elasticity of their bodies. Nevertheless, they had accumulated a treasure horde of experience and skill. And some women were more interested in the variety of such teachings. Also, they enjoyed eating young tender loins [pun intended] which these young hunters brought home. With this kind of motivation, they became skillful hunters -- and lovers -- very quickly. Thus "prostitution" was very beneficial for all members of the tribe.

After six to ten million years of wandering, some six to ten thousand years ago we established the co-called civilization. Marriages and organized rural and polytheistic religions had also come into being. From a more matriarchal we became a more patriarchal society. Women learnt they had to serve men; in marriage [we can look at it as an extremely regulated "prostitution"], in labor and in the temples. Obviously, the driving force of sexual energy [especially of men], their uses and misuses, came into play. Organized religious institutions and scrupulous rulers found means of how to bind men and women into loyal servitude. Men successful in their servitude; farmers who made bigger donations to the temple, warriors who vanquished enemies, were rewarded. For a certain amount of time, hours, days, weeks, they were given a "visitation" with the temple's Sacred Prostitute.

We need to understand, a "visitation", an official visit, so to say, was an acknowledgement by the temple or the king. Definitively, a Sacred Prostitute was well trained in how to give sexual satisfaction. However, she had to accept the misuse [sadism or ignorance] of her person. Matrimony, then and today, is like a riding a raft down the rapids. So where did a man go when he had problems which nowadays requires counseling by a psychologist? He went to the Sacred Prostitute. There she was able to establish a personal and sexual relationship, where acknowledgment for an advisable personal gift [besides the "counseling" fees for the temple] was acceptable.

The Sacred Prostitute fulfilled a psycho-hygienic requirement of the community. One of her tasks was to assure the continuity of her client's marriage, mostly by teaching him skills of how to act in [and out] of bed. The older, thus more experienced she got to be, the more appreciated and the more honored she became by both men and women. The matter of prostitution in the Judeo-Christian area is full of controversies, best left for another essay.

Now, to understand satisfying basic sexual needs, we need to accept that the effect of civilization on the development of our main sexual organ, our brain, is minimal. Our basic needs and instincts, logged in the so-called "reptilian" part of our brain, are still the same as they were six million or so ago. Basically, women need Safety and Security; men need Acknowledgment; both need sexual satisfaction. So, what is the six million year old secret that women knew and used to assure safety for their babies and themselves? We have heard of the "Mother Instinct", and its acceptance that a mother will even kill to keep her babies alive. We never doubt that a woman with a baby has this instinct, intrinsically! Have we heard, however, of a man's "Provider Instinct"? That it is just as intrinsical? That a man, under certain conditions, will even let himself be killed to provide for his woman and children? So, let us investigate those "certain conditions."

What is needed for a man to manifest his Provider Instinct, for obviously a man's brain functions differently than a woman's? The secret lies in that a woman must purposely stimulate the Provider Instinct of her man. Her Mother Instinct, however, is immediately stimulated by the presence of her baby. It seems to me, there is some doubt, that a woman feels that her man lacks this instinct. The Provider Instinct must exist, for we hear of men sacrifying themselves for their families, in one way or other. However, what a woman needs to understand is that she must provide the stimulation -- honestly, a man cannot do this for himself. ACKNOWLEDGMENT is the key! Of course, if you have read this far, you know that. Yet there is acknowledgment and Acknowledgement. The former is when it is habitual and thus will be of minor value. The latter is when it is innovative, special and new. It then becomes the Stimulus for the Provider. As noted above, great sex, showing him Your satisfaction and nurturing him to His satisfaction is The Acknowledgment.