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| Adventure
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| This has all the usual meanings, and on this site it usually has the added meaning of "the kind of sex I'd like to have but my last partners didn't give me." Usually it refers to trying new bedroom positions, trying threesomes, doing it in exotic or forbidden places, etc. Again, it's a relative term, so read the context clues before assuming you know what it means.
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| Anal
| Short for anal intercourse (penis in butt). That said, it's often used to mean any kind of butt play (rimming, playing with butt plugs or vibrators, etc.), in which case it's short for "anal play." You may possibly come across these related abbreviations: A/S (anal service) and A/W (anal worship), which are situationally defined.
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| Auto-Eroticism
| Do-it-yourself sex. Masturbation.
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| BBW
| Acronym for Big, Beautiful Women.
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| BDSM
| This is an acronym for a conflation of paired terms, as follows: Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism. For people seriously into these various pairs, the differences are important and the debates heated. Briefly, Dominance and Submission (D/s) is more about psychology, power exchange, and role playing. Sadist/Masochists consider themselves sensualists -- it's all about needing those physical feelings, or using them to get turned on. Bondage and discipline is just that, spankings to mummifications, with or without the S/M or D/s (note the dominant upper case "D" and the submissive lower case "s" -- the official affectation of D/s pundits). But on AFF, the preferred term is "kinky" -- which is considerably more inexact.
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| Bi-curious
| A male or female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
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| Bi-sexual
| Attracted to members of both sexes.
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| Blow job
| Mouth on penis action that results in ejaculation (that she blows!).
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| Bondage
| Use of any sort of restraint in sex play. Although bondage can get elaborate with advanced sailor's knots, rope suspension and so forth, on this site, people generally mean the lighter varieties -- maybe a silk scarf around the wrists or a pair of handcuffs.
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| Butt plug
| A plug or stopper inserted in the anus for added sensation during sex play. Commercial butt plugs are flanged at the end (so they won't slip up the chute) and made of safe materials. But home-grown ingenuity abounds, in which case it's anyone's guess.
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| Butt play
| Though this is basically another term for "anal," it tends to be used more often when the writer is referring to activities other than penetration.
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| Circumcised
| The penis no longer has a foreskin. For example, a majority of American males are circumcised as infants.
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| Closed swinging
| Couples are having sex in separate rooms on the same premises (usually a party in a large home).
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| Cross-dressing
| A member of one sex dresses as a member of the opposite sex. Drag queens and drag kings, for example. It would include the practices of transvestites who practice the behavior specifically for sexual arousal.
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| Cunnilingus
| mouth action to female genitals, oral sex; that is, licking, lapping, sucking, slurping any of the larger genital parts
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| D & D Free
| Drug and disease free. (Everyone claims to be it and to want it, so it cancels itself out as a useful term.)
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| Dildo
| Commercially, it's a latex, silicone, rubber, plastic, glass, etc. object, usually (but not necessarily) resembling a penis, used for insertion in sexual play. Non-commercially, there are vegetables, household wares, and whatever else the human imagination can conjure up.
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| Discreet
| (not discrete) Usually used as "discreet encounter." Respecting the privacy or maintaining the secrets of another or not attracting a lot of attention. It sounds more responsible than "let's keep it a secret." In many cases, the person using the term "looking for discreet relationship" is married or has a serious relationship going on, and by discreet, they mean, don't call the house and say, "This is so-and-so's lover is s/he there -- I could use some phone sex." Other times, there are children or parents involved and the person doesn't want the relationship paraded in front of them. In some cases it simply means the person wants to keep it low profile -- don't plan on showing up at your lover's office with a picnic lunch and a vibrator. In short, since it can mean a laundry list of things -- you're best to clarify.
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| Doggie style
| A man-from-behind sexual position in which the woman is on all fours -- the way doggies do it.
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| Dominant
| (Also dom, domme, domina and dominatrix -- the last three are female only). The person who wants to be the controlling partner or aggressor in sexual relations. (It can also be used as a descriptor: "I am dominant in the bedroom.") If the person has mentioned a D/s relationship or says they like it "kinky," it can mean playing the role of "Master" or Mistress" to the partner's "slave" or "servant." If someone says point blank, "I'm a dom (or domme)," they mean this type of role play, added, most likely, to elements like bondage, pain, and other goodies. Again, clarify.
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| DP
| Double penetration - A penis in two holes. In a three-way, having anal and vaginal penetration at the same time -- one up the chute and one in the hole.
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| D/s
| Dominance/submission play. One person takes the controlling role in sexual activity, the other person takes the passive or obedient role. This "play" has varying degrees of intensity. In frequency it can range from once in a while to 24/7, and in intensity it can range from giving a few orders or deciding who takes what sexual position to inflicting severe pain. Always clarify what the person using the term is thinking.
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| Eating
| Basically a term used for cunnilingus.
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| Exhibitionist
| A person who is aroused by being watched, either naked, or masturbating, or having sex, etc.
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| Fetishes
| Things other than erotic zones of the body that turn an individual on. Examples are rubber, leather, latex, fat, toes, boots, high-heels, corsets, nylons, you name it. That said, this narrow definition has come to incorporate BDSM, because people associated with BDSM practices often had a "fetish" for leather (whips, belts, straps, chaps, leather gloves, etc.). So a person who's into whipping might call that practice a fetish.
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| Feminization
| "Forcing" a man to dress as a woman, wear nylons, silk undies, etc. Usually it's his fantasy as well as his partner's. Less often it simply means transvestitism.
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| Fellatio
| Mouth on penis oral sex, not a term you'll find often on the site; male profiles often express this as "receiving oral."
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| Fingering
| Most often this is a finger applied to the clitoris, but it can be any variety of finger-in-hole actions as well, including anal fingering.
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| Fisting
| Make a fist, shove it in. Or make the fist after it's in and use it as a piston. There's anal fisting and vaginal fisting. (And except in the case of a very wide jaw, oral fisting is more appropriately known as a fist fight).
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| Foreskin
| Also, prepuce. A fold of skin that covers the head of the penis often surgically removed by circumcision.
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| French (also French culture)
| Mouth on/in genitals sex. Cunnilingus and fellatio.
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| Fun
| On this site "fun," as in "looking for fun," tends to mean "sex," or "primarily sex."
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| Generous
| Often this term takes with it the connotation that money will be exchanged for sex, so be forewarned.
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| Greek (also Greek Culture)
| Any action that involves anal penetration by penis. More commonly applied to male homosexuality.
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| GSOH
| Acronym for Good sense of humor.
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| Hand job
| Man gets orgasm when he or his mate strokes his peter by hand.
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| Hard core swingers
| Couple who live, eat, sleep swinging; also swingers who engage in hard core swinging (below).
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| Hard core swinging
| A swinger gathering or meeting is hard core when sex is expected.
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| Hard swinging
| Swinging where there is sexual partner switching, "hard swinging" is synonymous with swapping.
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| Head
| As in "giving/getting head," is mouth on penis stimulation, fellatio.
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| Hedonism
| From an involved Greek philosophy and way of life, it is basically the belief that the greatest good in life is to seek physical pleasure. Pleasure seeking. It can be a way of life. The Hedonism resort chain obviously co-opted this concept. They are quite opulent and favorite destinations of swingers, nudists, and fetishists.
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| Hung
| Same as well-hung. Man with a large penis. Bull-dick.
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| Introitus
| Latinate term for the vaginal opening. If you see this term on AFF, you're probably reading the profile of a doctor.
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| IRL
| Acronym for In Real Life, usually in ads or discussions where fantasy play is discussed, to differentiate the play from the daily grind.
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| ISO
| Acronym for "in search of."
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| Jacuzzi
| Brand name hot tub set-up with jets of water constantly circulating into the tub -- these jets are often used for masturbating and have great foreplay value, so the mention of "Jacuzzi" is less about the brand name and more about the sexual image. Very popular with the swinger crowd.
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| Johnson
| One of the many nice little names for the penis.
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| Juicy
| A great way to suggest horniness without saying it. For example, "looking for a juicy lady" means "Ladies, please be hot to trot."
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| Kitten
| If you see this in a profile, it may mean the person being described is some or all of the following: "fluffy," flirtatious, petite, sexy, delicate, submissive. Again, keep reading to find out which apply. The term is also used sometimes for "pussy."
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| Kinky
| The narrowest definition refers to incorporating fetishes into sex play. You may find balloons give you a woody (balloon fetish), and so you (or your partner) rub your penis with a balloon to get you off. Broader definition includes BDSM. You like to be tied to the bed; your partner likes to be whipped; you like to worship your partner's arm pits, etc. However, on the site you will even broader definitions -- in fact it can merely mean "looking for sex that's more adventurous than what I'm used to. For example, if she's only had missionary sex with her husband for the past 20 years, she might think doing it doggie style is "kinky" -- or doing it outdoors, or doing it with three people. Many people think anal sex is "kinky." In fact, many people think that anything that causes you to wrinkle your nose and go "eeuwww!" is kinky. Best to inquire about this one.
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| Kundalini
| Sexual energy. The term is used in the context of Tantra and most people using this word will be referring to a whole way of thinking about sex that involves meditation and breathing exercises.
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| LOL
| Computerese acronym for Laugh Out Loud. You'll also see a lot of this :)
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| Lover
| Sexual partner, but often meaning that the person using the word expects more than sex (such as companionship, LTR, etc.).
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| LTR
| Acronym for long-term relationship.
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| Master (or Mistress)
| A person who assumes the "play" role of Master/Mistress while the partner "plays" slave or servant. This "play" can be a once-in-a-while thing used to spice up sexual play or it can be sustained over a 24/7 schedule. It can be as mild as giving a few orders or deciding who takes what sexual position or as heavy as inflicting severe pain. Do inquire.
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| Matroom
| A room set up for group sex. Also known as a group room.
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| Meet for pleasure
| This expression means, in swinging, that the encounter is not about friendship, but sex only.
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| Menage a trois
| From the French, this means three people set up a household. It includes sexual relations of course. So it really refers to a live-in situation, but it has been generalized quite a bit. On the site, it can often mean any "encounter" in which three people have sex.
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| M.O.S.
| Members of the Opposite Sex.
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| Muff (muff diving)
| Well, "muff" is appropriately descriptive of the bush as located on the venus mound, that is, female bush. "Muff-diving" is also fairly accurate in description if you consider that you have to dive through the muff to get to the meat-- which is what muff diving really is: cunnilingus.
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| Mutual pleasuring
| In the most general sense it means, "We both come." But it often means "you do to me whatever I do to you" -- an important distinction that can grow into a nasty nettle patch if you don't clarify it early on.
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| Mutual masturbation
| "Masturbate" primarily means manual stimulation of one's own genitals, but a secondary meaning is to manually pleasure someone else. "Mutual masturbation" usually means, you masturbate me, I masturbate you. But technically it can and often does mean each of us masturbates him or herself, but we're in the same room watching each other. On the site the term can mean almost any combination of you-do-me-do-you-watch-me-watch.
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| Naturists
| An actual national organization of nudists, these are nudists with a philosophy, so it includes nature, going back to nature, and a lot of outdoor activities.
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| Nudists
| People who like to be nude and do it as often as possible. They often remain nude in their homes, get together with other nudists for events, or have special places like camps or beaches where they can congregate (in the nude, of course).
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| O (the big O)
| "O" is for orgasm. "Big O" is big orgasm.
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| Open swinging
| Two, plus couples have sex in the same room -- but not necessarily with each other.
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| Oral
| Oral sex (see below).
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| Oral sex
| Cunnilingus and fellatio, any variety of mouth to genitals action, irregardless of climax. In other words, for you legalists, it can be called "sex" even if there's no orgasm. Less frequently called "oral service," which may suggest a D/s context.
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| Orgy
| Group sex, lots of people, lots of parts in lots of holes and no wallflowers allowed.
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| Play
| Any kind of fun stuff you do as part of arousal, foreplay, or sex. Sex play, bedroom play, kinky play, etc.
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| Polyamory
| Sexual relationships with more than one partner. Usually refers to emotional attachment and various agreements between the partners.
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| Positions
| The sexual positions, for example man-on-top, woman-on-top, man-from-behind, woman from behind (with strap-on), and so forth. People usually mention positions in conjunction with "adventure" or as part of wanting to "try something new."
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| Quickie
| Quick sex, usually involving orgasm, often on the run or in a public or unsanctioned place.
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| Rear Entry
| A position for intercourse: guy enters woman from behind (or woman sits back on lying down man).
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| Receiving
| Being the passive partner, having any sexual act done to you. On AFF it's often used in this context: "I like oral sex, giving as well as receiving." This means, "You suck me, I'll suck you."
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| Reciprocate
| This is a more sophisticated way of saying "do me like I do you," but it works for non-sexual contexts as opposed to "giving and receiving." It can refer to something as nebulous as "have exactly the same degree of passion I have." In this case, better investigate further.
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| Rimming
| Analingus. Tongue goes anus diving.
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| Recreational Swinging
| No-strings swinging -- swinging without attachments, friendships, relationships, emotional connections, etc.
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| Role Play
| Sex games people play whereby each partner plays a certain fantasy "role," like school boy and school mistress, baby and daddy, whore and john.
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| Roman (Roman Style, Roman Culture)
| Sex by orgy.
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| Sadomasochism
| The giving (sado) and receiving (masoch) of pain in sexual play or for sexual arousal -- or for just plain fun.
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| Shaving
| Usually refers to shaving pubic hair, but can refer to shaving any or all other places hair grows on the body. The user will usually specify. If a woman says "shaved" she's most definitely referring to pubic hair. A man may qualify with "completely shaved" and then he would probably be referring to at least chest and pubes, possibly pits and legs, not necessarily beard or head hair.
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| Social
| In a swinger context you meet and greet, but don't have sex. Essentially a chance to meet other couples for future sexual encounters.
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| Soft porn
| Cross an X rated movie without the plot with a XXX-rated movie without the in-your-face action. In short, all the packaging with none of the content.
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| Soft swinging
| Couples get together and engage in sexual activity together, but they only have sex with their own partners -- no partner swapping. But a lot of watching does go on -- and possibly some touching -- a touchy matter best negotiated in advance. The hard line for soft swinging is no intercourse between non-mates. A wider definition says that any time a couple brings in a third party, they are swinging (threesomes). But in this case the third party would only watch or be watched.
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| STDs
| Acronym for Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Also STIs (where "I" is illnesses, more often seen in UK)
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| Straight (also STR or STR8)
| Guys often write this in a profile to discourage other guys from contacting them.
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| Strap-on
| A penis-shaped dildo with a flanged base, latex or something similar, that is run through a hole in a harness. The penis end allows a woman to penetrate and copulate like a man while the flange, pressed against her body, can stimulate her clit. She can ride the man from behind, engage in sex with another woman, and engage in other manly pursuits.
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| Submissive
| A person who likes to take the passive role in sex or lets the partner give the orders and call the shots (also used as a descriptor). In the context of D/s play, the role takes on more requirements as negotiated by the partners.
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| Swapping
| This is swinging where two (or more) couples get together and exchange partners to have sex.
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| Swedish
| Sexual play that involves massage or a lot of touching.
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| Swinging
| Refers to couples "playing" with other couples or with singles. It doesn't really qualify the degree of play. It tends to mean there is some sort of sex involved. In any case, the term doesn't really give you any clues as to who does what with whom. For some clue, they have invented the terms "hard swinging" and "soft swinging" and otherwise, you read between the lines.
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| Tantra
| Well that's a big one. Tantra is a spiritual practice that revolves around the sexual union. It works with sexual intimacy, body awareness, breathing practices, sensitivity practice, a whole lot of other things all conceptually driven by concepts such as two-becoming-one, bringing unity out of polarity, uniting spiritual energy with physical energy... After that, read a book, watch a video, or get a teacher. Because on AFF, not everyone who uses the term walks that actual walk. Some people use the term to mean they are slow, serious sexual connoisseurs as opposed to the "quickie" types. It also tends to suggest they want a more long-term arrangement, more emotional commitment rather than the one-nighter/no-strings thing. But it's a wild card, so if someone uses the term with you, it's best to inquire.
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| Threesome
| A couple and a third party engage in some form of sexual activity. But it can be used to refer to any three people in a sexual encounter. Every situation is different, so it's important to clarify parameters.
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| Tonguing
| Most often refers to use of the tongue in cunnilingus. Although if used in conjunction with a body part, it simply means applying tongue action to said body part.
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| Toys
| In an AFF context, leave your kids out of this one. These would be sex toys, any implement used in sex play. It tends to mean things like dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, and so forth, can include kinky toys like handcuffs and blindfolds, but really, after that it could be anything up to and including the kitchen sink, especially if you have someone creative on your hands.
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| Transgender
| The larger category of people who wish to be or believe they're meant to be a member of the opposite sex, plus people who've made the change, and people who exhibit cross-gendered behavior, such as cross-dressers.
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| Transsexual
| A person who used to be one gender and changed to the other gender via hormones and/or surgery.
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| Triad
| A three-way, ongoing relationship of mixed sexes, as opposed to a "threesome" which is usually a one-nighter just for sex.
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| Troilism
| A sophisticated way of saying "threesomes" -- traditionally this term refers to threesomes as a perversion.
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| Tung-hsuan
| This guy wrote a book hundreds of years ago that took all the fun out of sex by tying it to numerology and making you count everything. And-one-and-two-and-three-and-four. Unless you have a Mathematics fetish, if someone on AFF suggests this approach to you, run.
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| Transvestism (transvestitism), TV
| Someone who advertises as a TV is a transvestite (transvestism is the practice). This means the person gets sexually aroused by dressing in the clothing of the opposite sex, men who love to wear women's underwear, for example.
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| Uncut
| Refers to the penis when it still has its foreskin.
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| Utopian Swinging
| Swinging as a life style, complete with philosophy, which is humanistic in nature.
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| Vibrators
| A sex toy that vibrates, usually battery operated. They can be used topically for body sensitizing or clitoral, penile or testicular stimulation. They can be used by insertion for either vaginal or anal stimulation. And then there's creativity. Anything goes.
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| Voyeurism
| For those who like to watch. Broadly speaking, it refers to being sexually aroused simply by watching other people engage in sexual activity. As used on the site it can mean the person is not willing to engage physically, or it can mean that if you don't want physical contact, he/she is willing to go along. Examples: a married lady will offer to watch or be watched and consider that within the realm of her marital fidelity. Or, a man will join a couple as a voyeur -- look but don't touch.
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| Wank
| UK expression for jerk-off, jack-off, slap the monkey, etc. The person who does this is called a wanker, often used pejoratively.
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| Water sports
| Usually refers to pee play, but broader definitions can include things like enemas.
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| Woman-on-top
| A coital position whereby the woman is literally on top of the man. Many men prefer their women on top, and this suggests nothing else about their lovemaking style or personality.
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| XXX
| Hard porn. You get to see all the machinery up close doing its thing.
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| Yoni
| Vagina. This term has Eastern sexual practices written all over it. It also refers to the female principle. Someone using the term might be into or well-read in Tantric sex.
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